Feeling Lost? Try This.

Holy Whirlwind.

First of all, I’ve missed you.

If the past three weeks have been as crazy for you as they have for me, I hope you wore a seatbelt.

I mean, I think I got whiplash from school starting, making snap decisions to evacuate for a hurricane, hitting up disney and taking big leaps in biz. To name a few.

How about you, has the change in seasons been a little cray?

Many people I’ve been chatting with – friends, clients, relatives, etc. have been mentioning they feel a little lost. Like, they don’t know what the next steps are. They’re used to having some kind of vision of the future, some goal they’re working towards but right now – they got nadda.


I was in a similar place a few weeks ago. I think quite frankly, I was wiped out. I was exhausted from lots of work, summer and you know, just life.

So I gave myself permission to pump the breaks. To get really present, ask for guidance and it turned into a spontaneous trip to Disney with my family, due to a hurricane evacuation.

I could write a 10 page essay on what I learned throughout those 4 days but, I’m gonna keep it nice is short for you.

Sometimes, life is like a hurricane. We get thrown into environments and situations we can’t control. The only thing we can control is how we show up in them. Our power is waiting for us in the perceptions we have and the choices we make.

I could have been miserable, for having to pack up my house, leave at a moments notice and flee to Florida with my family. Not knowing if we would be coming back to a home or if our beloved city would be devastated.

BUT, I decided to look at it as a family adventure and make the most of every single moment. I didn’t think about business, or what my next big project would be – I just decided to have fun.

Not because it was the easy choice but because it’s what felt like relief. This mama was craving relief, like ice cream on a hot summer day.

That choice alone, helped me be present and let go of trying to control outcomes.  The result, was a lifetime of memories packed into 4 short day, that I will truly never forget.

After feeling refreshed and thankfully returning home to our house in on piece and our city in great shape – thank god – I dove into the exercise that always bring me home to the real me and my vision.

I want to share it with you today.

First, if you’re feeling like you have no clue what the next steps are in business or life in general – I suggest giving yourself a few days to just have fun. I know, I know – it sounds ass backwards and like the last thing that will give you clarity. Yet, I promise it works.

It creates relief and takes the pressure off. So, when you do dive into this exercise you can do so with genuine curiosity and clarity.

Now here’s the exercise.

Carve out 30 minutes to yourself. Close your eyes and take a deep breath. With your eyes closed I want you to envision your ideal day one year from now.

Really take the lid off your imagination and allow yourself to dream. Don’t worry about getting this right or having all the answers, simply allow yourself to dream for the fun of it.

As you envision the life you’ve created for yourself one year from now, notice how you wake up, how you feel when you wake up, look at your surroundings?

How do you like to spend the first hour of your morning?

What do you do next?

Where do you see yourself working?

What kind of passions and skill sets are you using while you work?

What does your work environment look like?

Who are you working with?

What kind of conversations are you having?

How do you feel while you’re working?
What do you see yourself eating for lunch and how do you feel while you’re eating it?

What does your afternoon look like?

Remember this is your ideal day, it can be whatever you want it to be.

Are you diving back into work and if so, where are you working?

Are you on the computer in a coffee shop?

In a office environment?

Having meetings around town?

Working from home?

What projects are you working on and how do you feel while you’re working?
When do you move your body during this day?

What kind of exercise are you doing and notice how you feel while you’re doing it?

When the early evening rolls around, how do you spend your time?

Do you go for a walk?

Hit up a happy hour?

Spend time with your fam & friends?

Then as dinner time approaches, how and where do you spend your evening meal?

Do you eat out at a restaurant or cook at home?

What kind of conversation do you have during your dinner? Notice the food you’re eating and how you feel while you’re eating it.

After dinner, what kind of evening routine do you have?

How do you like to spend those last few hours hours of your day? Do you take a bath? Read? Watch TV? Write?


As you crawl into bed, notice the time. Then as you lay in bed, close your eyes and do a full body scan. Take note of how you feel after living this ideal day.


After you open your eyes. I encourage you to write down what you saw during this ideal day. Then, once you write down all of the details and how you felt; write down the aspirational words that represent how you felt BEING that person. (Ie. Courageous, Present, Confident, Calm, Vibrant, Alive)

Whatever 4 words represent the person you were being in that vision, are your new words to carry with every day. Check in with them, first thing in the morning, throughout your day and even in the evening. Are you BEING that person.

Are your thoughts, words and actions aligning with that person? If not, what choices could you make to align with being that person and create the changes you’re desiring.

You already have the vision. Now it’s all about creating habits, that allow that visions to come into fruition. We’re never lost, sometimes we just forget to slow down and tap into the vision that’s waiting for us. Once we have it’s all about taking one courageous baby step at a time.


Here’s the good news, you just took a major leap forward by doing this exercise.

I’m rooting for you.


Xo,

Ash

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