I still can’t believe I did this.
I was in yoga class a couple of weeks ago and the instructor, who’s also my dear friend asked,
“Does anyone have an area they want to work on during class?”
I blurted out, “HIPS!”
Then we kind of got our asses handed to us.
She went on to teach a challenging yet fabulous class.
Halfway through the sequence someone said, “Thanks Ashley.”
Implying they didn’t like the challenge both their mind and body were facing.
Just like that I said it, “Sorry Guys.”
You may be thinking, What’s the big deal? Well, I’m going to tell you.
I wasn’t sorry. At all.
My Hips were feeling wonky as hell and I knew they needed some love.
I think we as humans, especially women, apologize way too much.
We say sorry for things we say, do and want simply because we’re afraid of fully owning our space in the world.
In the middle of class I realized I was slipping back into an old habit. One that died hard and I was determined to never allow back into my life.
I’m wondering if you’ve ever done this?
I used to say sorry, for just about everything.
I would apologize after speaking my truth because I was scared people wouldn’t like what I said. I would declare a big desire I had, then be terrified someone was thinking I was a ridiculous dreamer or insane for wanting something ‘so big’ and “Sorry” would fall out of my mouth.
I would say sorry, when I was trying to be overly polite, when I could have said excuse me. I said that freakin’ word probably 100 times a day, out of habit.
Can you relate?
If you can I want to share something with you. Here’s what I realized. I said sorry because I was terrified of fully showing up in the world as myself. So, I attempted to conform into a small box filled with what I thought others would approve of, all in attempts to be loved.
That dance, was so exhausting and it led to looking for love in all the wrong places.
Our words hold so much power, they shape our reality and express how we view ourselves in the world. They ultimately teach others how to treat us, by how we treat ourselves.
So why was I basically apologizing for being ALIVE?
I made a promise to myself I wouldn’t say sorry unless I really meant it. I’m not gonna lie, this took watching my words like a hawk, but it worked.
Eventually the new habit of speaking my truth without fear, stuck. My confidence rose to the surface and I realized how free I felt, to be me.
Now, I easily share my thoughts, declare what I want and proudly own my space in the world.
Are there times I feel scared to speak up, of course, I’m human. I just know when fear is taking the reins and how to reel myself back into a place of love.
I witness many people overuse the word sorry. When I ask them why they’re saying it so often, they don’t even realize they’re doing it. It’s a habit for them as well.
So, I encourage them to own what they want, declare their desires with confidence. Trust that their thoughts and words are valuable in the world and their opinion, matters.
It’s a beautiful freedom all of us human beings have. The power of choice. We can want what we want. As a matter of fact, those desires are coming through us for a reason and it’s up to us to realize them.
Now, I have a question for you, Mama.
Are you using your words in a confident way and owning your space in the world? Or are you using them to shrink back and play small?
Today, I’m encouraging you to watch the way you speak and notice if it’s in alignment with how you want to show up in the world.
I can’t wait to hear how it goes for you, so send me a message and let me know.