How To Use Your Intuition To Create A Life You Love →

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We all know the feeling of regret that comes immediately after making a decision you knew wasn’t the right one. Maybe you agreed to do someone a favor even though you’re on deadline for work. Maybe you promised to meet a high school acquaintance out of obligation, despite the fact that the person mistreated you back then.

You want to crawl out of your skin. You wish you could rewind time and make a different choice.

Panic sets in and you start to obsess about why you made that decision. Maybe you start trying to convince yourself of all the reasons you should do whatever it is you decided to do, even though it feels completely forced.

We guilt trip ourselves so often sometimes we don’t even notice. But, if we’re honest with ourselves, we know it’s useless.

Guilt feels so wrong because it’s not a state intended or desired by the universe. (When I say “universe,” I mean the creator of everything. You may want to call it God, Source, Buddha, etc. I will use “universe” in the rest of this piece.) It’s a mindset characterized by fear, shame and harsh judgement, and it breeds more of those things.

A mantra I like to use when I find myself getting mired in worry or anxiety is this. “Fear is just false evidence appearing real.”

Guilt results from a focus on what you lack, and this focus encourages those feelings of inadequacy to grow.

Now, the universe isn’t sitting there judging you when you make a decision you’re not proud of, and it certainly isn’t holding it against you. Only you are. You are an extension of the universe, and guilt is a sign that you’re not being true to who you really are.

This is classic ego. It loves to parade our perceived failures or shortcomings in front of us.

Here’s the truth about the ego. We’ll always have one, and we need it. It’s not about beating it to the ground till it goes away. It’s about creating an awareness of when the ego’s running the show, and choosing to consciously redirect our thoughts.

Ego helps us experience contrast. Contrast between feelings is how we determine what we do our don’t actually want. So, the ego actually helps us move closer to the life we want.

When the ego produces guilt, it implies you’re involved in or committed to something you don’t really want to do or think about. The moment you realize that, you have an opportunity to find out why, and start searching for an activity or pursuit that will fulfill you.

Awareness of your guilt is all that’s required to take your power back, rather than to continue being a victim of your circumstances. Over time, you’ll create a new habit of making choices based on your true feelings and values. This inevitably results in decisions of which you can be proud.

Next time you feel that guilt creeping in, take a step back. Ask yourself, what is this feeling trying to teach me? The answer will rise to the surface, and you can then use it to make a choice better suited to bringing about the future you want. Your feelings are your superpower. Use your intuition to read them, and create a life you love to live.


7 Reasons Knowing Your Unique Purpose Will Change Your Life →

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You wake up with that electric feeling surging through your body, and you just know it’s going to be a good day. Better than most, as a matter of fact.

You’re no longer bumbling along, trying to make sense of things that come your way. In hopes that the perfect job or relationship will land in your lap.

Instead, you know you’ve got this. You’re in charge of the road ahead, and it feels damn good. You’re clear about why you’re here and what you’re going to do with this glorious life you’re living.

This is a result of being certain of your unique purpose in life.

Remembering this can change every aspect of your life. I say “remembering” because all of us know this from a very young age. After years of listening to others’ opinions and learning fear, we often forget.

I’ve seen in it time and again in every client I’ve ever worked with.

Everyone’s experience is different in that moment of remembering. Sometimes it’s like fireworks and their whole life makes dramatic positive shifts quickly. Others times it’s a start to one of the most gorgeous paintings you’ve ever seen. It takes time. One stroke after another adds to the beauty, elegance and transformation that’s creating this masterpiece.

The truth is that the timeline doesn’t really matter all that much. It’s the content that’s so alluring.

One thing I know for sure: knowing your purpose helps you remember who you really are. In turn you stop doing anything — ESPECIALLY regarding your career — because you think you should do it.

Most people feel like they’ve given themselves a huge green light to be themselves. They have a greater understanding and appreciation of their unique gifts. They spend their days, time, energy and even money on what they value most.

As if that weren’t enough, here are a few more reasons why knowing your unique purpose will change everything in your life.

1. You’ll create a career far greater than what you could have ever imagined.

It will be filled with depth, meaning and purpose. This is a result of knowing your passions are not an accident; they’re showing up as part of your guidance system. When you use them to work with and help others, it will be the best use of your time, energy and creativity.

2. You’ll stop playing small.

You’ve got important moves to make while you’re here. With this newfound clarity, you take meaningful action daily.

3. You become more authentic than ever before.

You’ve given yourself the green light to be unabashedly you, and there’s no turning back now, baby. All those personality traits you used to think were an accident or perhaps you were embarrassed of, you now realize have divine purpose.

It’s your responsibility to be true them. With this knowing you realize when you allow yourself to shine, you encourage others to do the same.

4. Feeling good becomes the name of the game.

You’ve played the game of should’s, guilt and resistance long enough. Now that you know who you are and why you’re here, you’re open and curious about what you want to create next. You know without question that you’re here to FEEL good.

So, every day you make that a priority. This affects all of your relationships, enhancing intimacy and connection. The bonus is that it creates a positive domino effect of emotions and experiences.

5. You listen to and appreciate others’ opinions, but you don’t depend on them.

They have their own purpose that’s driving them on a daily basis. Their opinions come from their own life experiences, not yours. Now that you trust your intuition and know you’re always being guided, you listen to yourself more and trust the process.

6. Self-care becomes a top priority.

You genuinely want to take care of yourself, so you can fully show up for each day, feeling like a million bucks and ready to roll.

7. You spend less time doubting and more time trusting.

You know you’re not here by accident. The more time you spend doing what makes you come alive, the more impact you’ll have.

There’s only one YOU on this planet and we need you. So please, embrace those passions of yours and do what makes you come alive!

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Rebel Challenge starts today!

I hope your day is off to an amazing start!!!!!

I am super stoked over here because today kicks off the 21 day Rebel Challenge and I want you to join in on the fun!! Each day I will post a new challenge on my Facebook page, https://www.facebook.com/ashley.cebulka

Just to be clear about the kind of rebel we are talking about here.

(Rebel: One who stands up for what they believe in, despite the good opinions of others. One who takes action based on what feels good to their intuition )

The intention behind this challenge: To create a life we love.

While helping us listen to our intuition more.

Increase our freedom.

Do MORE of what lights us up.

Ditch the habits that don’t feel good and drain our energy.

Get a bit outside of our comfort zone.

Increase our energy.

Take ACTION.

Increase Abundance.

Experience and embrace our well being.

Add more value to the world.

Give ourselves to permission to Shine!

Each day I will post a challenge for you to do that day. (it will not take more than 5 minutes to do each day. FYI- you will need a journal/notebook.)

What I need from you: post below what your experience was once you have completed that days challenge.

Anyone who does all 21 days (posting comments all 21 days below the challenge) will win a free one hour life coaching session with moi!!!

So let’s get started, shall we?! We are starting with gratitude.

The first challenge- write out what you are grateful for about yourself.

Happy writing!!!!!

I look forward to hearing from you.

With so much love and gratitude,

Ash


Nothin’ But Love →

So I have wanted to write about this for a while, for so many reasons.

1. Because I think it’s all to easy to let our busy lives carry us away and quickly neglect the attention our relationships need.

2. Who doesn’t love saying and hearing why they are adored, especially by their partners?

3. Taking time to connect is vital to our well being.

4. I’m a big, rather HUGE fan of gratitude.
I  could go on but instead, I encourage you to read this most recent piece I wrote for Mind Body Green.

 

http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-11692/how-to-make-your-relationships-more-loving.html