We’ve all been there.
That moment that seems like eternity. Where your thoughts are racing, your stomach is filled with a ball of churning nerves and you find yourself wondering if a shot of tequila is the only answer.
You know what I mean, right?
It happens to pretty much everyone, I’ve ever met.
It used to paralyze me.
I wouldn’t pursue my passions, because I was afraid of what others may think.
I wouldn’t get started because the thought of failing, would suffocate any bit of passion I had.
I wouldn’t put myself out there, because the anxiety of sucking, took over the courage go giving it a go.
I wouldn’t, I wouldn’t, I wouldn’t.
The list goes on of what and how I allowed anxiety to hold me back.
Until I started to realize that holding back and playing small felt worse than moving through the fear to actually do what I wanted to do. I felt more alive and had an attitude of, “Well at least I tried.” Rather than, “What if?”
Kinda’ that simple.
But not always easy.
So I want to share a practice with you, that helped me get out of my own damn way.
The opposite of anxiety is trust. At least that how I look at it.
So, when anxiety tries to take me down it’s dark road; I tell it, “I see what your up to, you want to show me all the ways this isn’t going to work and all the fears I could entertain. I’m choosing to focus on trust instead.”
Then, I focus on what I trust in the moment.
“I trust the love I have for my family. I trust that laughing always makes me feel good. I trust that I will have my next breath. I trust that dancing my ass off, is one of my favorite things to do. I trust that the beach is my favorite place. I trust that I really am, always supported.”
I list off (Quietly or out loud) Whatever I trust in that moment. Whatever feels true to my core.
What I’ve found, this helps me get present. It helps life feel more easeful. Just like anything else, the more I place my attention on it, the more it grows. So, I find more evidence of how much there is to trust in the world, which feels fantastic, so I keep leaning in.
Within moments, anxiety is gone and trust reappears.
Give it a whirl and let me know what you think.
I spoke about this on the panel in NYC, if you want to check out the video, here’s the link https://www.facebook.com/AshleyCebulkalifestyleconsultant/
All trust & love,